I don't believe in waiting til the marriage is over necessarily as it can take so long. In which case, a lot of us here should not be dating etc. I do believe if your properly seperated and both parties have accepted that (even if one is still clinging but it's been a long time) that it's fine to move on.
I say do what you want..to each his own..all I say is don't be an OM and if you interject yourself in before she is done then there becomes a chance you will be a shoulder for her to cry on and something could develope. I think if we search back through my threads then we might see where you gave me the same advice for cafegirl34?? I removed myself from that sitch before anything started...and she is still with her "live in" boyfriend..
I do recall that, but each is always slightly unique. From what I recall, CG34 was and as you say still is, living we BF. MOT35 is no longer living with her ex, they are seperated. I do not see it that with her I would be OM as she is done. I will not persue it as such but stay friends and when we meet up (when out, not arranged) speak to her a bit more about it and say exactly that. I do not want me clouding her judgement on her ex and that I will not start 'seeing' her until she has told him that it's over and time to move on to start seeing other people or something. I might meet someone else before then, who knows. Seem to meet so many different ladies when out it's unreal.
However, STBXBFF34 is a bit different and is still living with her H, hence I've not done anything really on that front. That is more STBXBF and her doing. I'm expecting a text or phone call later today to meet up tonight as they have both already asked as they are out for a works xmas do, but I am not sure whether I will go eve. Will see, but I'll be a good boy....IO promise (she has got the sexiest eyes tho, do you know Danni Minogue ? They are green and piercing like that...lol)
