Lanzo, I think the conflict is my W wants me to hit the ground running in the physical intimacy department, and I need to move into it. She doesn't seem to have any empathy for where I'm at.
I understand that I should take the lead with it, so I can proceed on my terms and move into it. I'm planning on more couch time together.
I'm going to want use protection for now. I'll tell her that it will help me to relax. Knowing that she's been with other partners makes it critical that I use protection--a sensitive subject.
I've been to two different sex therapists over the years. My W would be willing to go, as long as I'm the identified patient. She makes it clear that she has no sexual issues, and that I'm the only man she's had difficulty with. I don't see marital therpay as being helpful at this time.
I'm going to stick with the girlfriend frame of mind, and see how that goes (even though there are days I'd like to break-up with her).
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
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