hey billy, I haven't posted on here in quite awhile, As a man that got left by my wife I'll try and give you the best advice I can give, because now looking back on things I should have listened more carefully to the advice I got on these boards. My w left me for someone that she works with, and it was driving me insane, I thought about it every second of the day and night, I found out about the OM through incessant snooping. That was my first mistake, it made things 20x worse because I thought of them together and it took all my energy,INSTEAD of fixing things about myself that maybe would have brought her back. My second mistake was that I didn't realize knowing what was truly going on wasn't going to change the situation I was in. I have gotten past everything that has happened to me, but I took the long,bad road. I best advice I can give you is to really "listen" to other posters on here, I read the words, but still didn't hear what was being said, maybe if I had things would have turned out different, maybe not, but the point is I could have saved myself alot of grief, and could have gotten myself to a muchh better place faster if I would have heeded some of the advice I got from here.
