Just when you think everything is going your way SOMETHING comes up..
I hear that. In fact, I expect that. I am trying to proceed cautiously. I am thinking of not attending a surprise birthday dinner for her uncle that she invited me to, in keeping with the idea so often esposused here about not accepting all invitations. As she moves closer, I will move away, ever so slightly.
It is a very tenuous place because I imagine she is waffleing and I have screwed up in the past at this point.
In fact, I want her desire to reconcile to grow because she is going to need motivation to get the information and do the 'work' that is needed to make a good marriage.
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Sometimes I think you need to just say.. WTF... What do I have to lose?
Yeah, I think that its all about timing and paying close attention to their emotional state. To what she is not saying, if you will....
I feel that in this situation I read it right and gave her just enough of what she wanted, and not too much.
I expect her to go back and forth from fear to desire. I hope that I have begun to address the things that had caused her to fear being in a relationship with me.
This is not to say that any one person is to blame. I can only deal with myself though....
Last edited by native; 12/12/0808:18 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
