I think your H is avoiding talking because he's trying to avoid conflict. I think he's doing this out of goodwill. He probably thinks that texting is the best way to keep things from escalating.
Also, regarding the laundry, he just doesn't understand the way we women think or see things. The difference between men and women as described in "Love & Respect". I know I keep bringing this up. It's because I truly see what a lot of sense the principles (taught in this book) makes.
