Recipe for a Military Wife

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Journaling and questioning:

DH sent an email to S3 for his birthday. Initially I was annoyed by it, as he never acknowledged D9 and D17's birthdays right after the ship left.

However, I read the email to S2 and then typed whet he wanted to tell Daddy--here are those emails:

S3,
Daddy will give you a call this weekend. When are you having a party? I love you buddy and I wish I could be there with you for your birthday. You have a good day and tell your sisters they should be extra nice to you today!! I can’t be there to share a cake with you, so I’ve sent a picture of one. Have a great day S3.
Love,
Daddy
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Daddy-

My party is Saturday. G and G are coming.(inlaws) Baby cousin is coming. Aunt S is coming. Uncle R is coming. D5 is mean and sick. We are going to have cake.

I miss you come home.

S3

I also received an email asking about a payment amount for a bill--one that is set up for online access, so he could have looked it up himself. He also mentioned that there was a problem with his uniform allowance and he needs to come up with $800+ When I responded, I gave him the bill information he was looking for, I validated his misunderstanding over the uniform bill and signed off saying I hope that everything else was going okay.

So, Wednesday, I received a response to S3's email and emails for both of the little girls, too. I asked D17 if she had heard from him lately and she said no, that he is probably still to mad at her for the other emails and running way, but whatever, she is okay with it (BTW--NO she isn't).

Email to S3:

S3,

Awesome!!! Sounds like you’ll have a good party then. I’m going to call you on Saturday to wish you a Happy Birthday! What time is your party at? D5 is mean and sick?LOL. What did she do that makes her mean?

I miss you too buddy.

Love,

Daddy

Email to D5:

D5,
S3 tells me that you’re being mean to him. I think you bake his birthday cake and clean his room for him. What do you think about that? Is that a good idea? I have a better one. You should give him a hug and tell him Happy Birthday. How are you doing? S3 said you are sick. Daddy has a sinus problem again and my head is all stuffy. I’ll talk to you on the phone real soon okay? You have a good day.
Love
Daddy

and finally, the one to D9:

D9,
How are you? Did you do anything special for S3 on his birthday? How’s school going for you? Did I ever tell you about all the dolphins I saw back at the beginning on November? Man! I was watching off the side of the ship and they were really close to us! There were tons of them and they were just jumping up out of the water everywhere. Sometimes they’d do flips and land on their backs! It was pretty cool, but it made me think of you also because I know how much you would have liked to see that. Anyways, I’ll be calling you soon and I forgot to tell D5 that I’m making another video for you guys. I’ll be making it tomorrow night so I’ll put it right in the mail on Friday. I’ll talk to you later.
Love,

Dad

What the heck???? This is the same man that has not gone out of his way to send them much of anything up to this point. The kids did not want to answer them Wednesday, so I saved them and will ask them again tomorrow. Is he now going to manipulate the kids?? Who knows.

I have been praying about writing the letter to DH. I know in my mind that I have to drop the rope more than I have, but I am not sure that the letter is what God wants me to do. I will keep praying until I feel like I am doing God's will.

Blessings and love for all my friends!

SMW