still kinda feel like i'm being a jerk. but i'm friendly to her when she and i see each other and talk. so IDK...
This says some of it right here. The way you feel like a jerk. Is that making you healthier ? The fact that a lot of what you are doing is orchestrated to get a response from her.
I normally advise people, LBS or WAS, to save themself first. If spouse happens to change as a result of that, wonderful. If not, you're still making yourself healthier.
Oh, & puppy, HEALTHY women love nice guys. Women who are hurting & desperate for a man's approval & acceptance, tend to respond to being ignored.
So what's the long term goal Neil. Get her back, even if it's playing up her abandonment fears ? or.... get healthy with or without her ?
jmo
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
