Trust me, I know you only want what is best for your kids and that you have a better idea than STBX does of how to get that for them. I keep repeating what I've been saying because your current methods may very well needlessly interfere with your goals.
OK, here's the GOOD news:
STBX wants very much for this to go smoothly and quickly, AND he says he is willing to listen to the C. This is excellent. Again, give him a chance to do so. Stop pushing, then take what the C says to the mediator and get the best deal for your kids. He seems VERY motivated to get the D done without further ado, for whatever reason (I sincerely hope it is not a bun in the oven just yet, but rather simple pressure from GF to get D. He probably lied to her about his marital status at some point.). No matter the reason, HIS WANTING TO PLAY NICE TO GET THE D OVER WITH IS TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. If you can keep him in that place, you have the best chance of getting the changes you want in the custody agreement, if your requests are reasonable and supported by the C.
Here's the BAD news:
STBX is CLEARLY starting to balk as a result of the pressure from you. If he decides he is in for a fight, FIGHT he will. And, he will be in a MUCH less cooperative mood and MUCH less generous mood than when he made the initial agreement. If this happens, you will likely wind up in a worse place than you are now.
CONCLUDING recommendation: remains the same... LEAVE HIM ALONE. Wait to see the C, then take that info to the mediator/L. BE VERY SELECTIVE in what you ask for. TREAD LIGHTLY. If you aren't incredibly careful about choosing your battles now, working for changes in the agreement could really blow up in your face.
