All, Well here's my opinion, of course I am not a therapist so its just for opinion sake. I will just be as honest as I can.
Of course you are hurt, that's what he meant to do. He didn't have control for that few minutes since you had BOTH decided to cautiously work on the marriage. That was a joint decision and he had to give up some control and he couldn't handle it and he dumped on you took control. I personally would have jumped off and said yeah this is not satisfying me either.
I know you want your marriage and i want that too but you have to be strong. He is controlling your every move. How much love was shown by what he did to you? Not much.
This is his issue and you need some boundaries in my very humble opinion. I will not lose my integrity and self respect for any one and that's including my H. Please protect yourself.
If you continue allowing the hurt at some point you will no longer love him and even if he does come back you won't want the marriage. Have you read SAA?
I am sure you are an awesome woman, and he truly needs to see what he has but you may have to implement boundaries so that he can feel what he may lose if he doesn't stop the abuse. That comment was abuse in my book.
Have you ever entertained the idea that maybe this isnt about you and that God needs to do some pruning on him and some molding and breaking?
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
