MS LADYBUG 1 yr later

[ms ladybug]

Scarred, it seems that perhaps you have not read any of my past threads.

"Worthwhile reconciliation", in my husband's eyes would be...
A wife who is also a personal servant. Available at any time for sexual favors while keeping the house spotless, the meals perfect and well-balanced, and the kids quiet and well behaved. At the same time, this wife must also work a full-time job, do all the grocery shopping, and personal errand running. Making ALL the arrangements for the kid's birthday parties, and holidays. She must also pay all the bills. She does ALL the child-care, changes all the diapers, gives baths, and referees when the kids fight (which they should NEVER do, because they are angels). At the end of her day, she will sit at his feet and revel in his greatness because after all...he went to work that day.

Guess what? I DID that (OK..I didn't revel in his greatness, or keep the house "spotless", but I did everything ELSE!)...but I didn't get up early to eat breakfast with him. So, obviously I "have no respect" for him.

Nothing I did or will do is EVER going to be good enough. So, if he is wondering whether or not reconciliation will be worthwhile, he needs to decide if he is grown-up enough to COMPROMISE on things. ANYTHING. (Where I put the toothpaste in the drawer, how I fold his underwear, what cleaner I mop the floor with). He WILL not let anything just go. Who cares? He does...about EVERYTHING! So yes, I am a complete bitch because I won't get up and eat breakfast with him (did I mention I get up 2x/night to attend to the kids while he has NEVER been the one to get up for them?) And I'm disrespectful because I mop the floors with Pine-Sol knowing full well that he prefers the smell of Clorox.

So, please do not say that I am nice enough to be a FWB, but not a wife because you have NO idea!