Arthur--You seem stuck in a bad spot with this W. Pushing her away seems to be drawing her closer. If you are the understanding ear that she is looking for, then you are going to be more appealing than her H. Be her friend, not the OM. You get it.

Everything I have seen says to take time to heal from the D. One source said take something like three months for every year of M. That makes three years for me and I don't know if that will be too long or not long enough. Although, I wish I had your charms/luck in getting women to notice me.

The song I referred to on my thread is "Come On Funny Feeling" by Rodney Crowell. He is better known as a country songwriter, also he was married to Johnny Cash's daughter Roseanne for a few years. He also was part of a group with Vince Gill that did a song called "It's Hard To Kiss The Lips At Night (That Chewed Your Ass Out All Day Long.)" That is a country song title for sure.

Cheers!

LE

M42
S12/D9
T17/M12
Bomb 1 3/22/06
Bomb 2 7/11/08
Bomb 3 7/31/08
W Filed 8/1/08
D granted 12/17/08
D Finalized 1/29/09

A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.