I am always late... Going back to gestures... I am a woman that has not been very demanding. Gestures, gifts, words had become "unecessary" in my M. From my H's side. I would still buy him gifts, cook his favourite dinner, wear sexy lingerie (despite the fact he laughed looking at me in those)and be "good" to him etc. etc.
Not everything I did was because it was my "favourite" thing to do (taking his suits at the cleaners in the morning when I was always late at work wasnt my best thing, but it would allow him to sleep in and it was worth the effort).
Guess what? After a while the relatiosnship became... lazy. And I got lazy too. I never expected him to go out of his way for me, with a surprise, a gift, an "extra" thoughtful gesture. An I thought I was over "these things". But in restrospective, it did matter. It mattered so much. Because these things "feed" love.
For me doing things for the one I love is a great staisfaction. Because I can "see" his smile, hear the thrill in his voice even beforehand. So the gesture per se, may not be what I like, but the result is what I enjoy the most.
Mike, women do appreciate these things. And you know what? When they are mature enough and not selfcentered they appreciate the "thought" behind the gesture even if the gesture sometimes is a bit ...off. K
and you're right that's my biggest issue..self doubt and not being able to see things in myself as "good" even when I know that I'm a good man..a good person..
and I know I need to stop that chittt..
That is typical for us I guess Mike. I know that is part of my daily struggle. While I should have all the confidence in the world according to those around me, I somehow don't. I suppose it will come back in time. Til then, I've learned how to mask it!
Long time no see! I was going to come hunt you down, but since you appeared on Mike's thread, I'll hijack--come see what my sailor is pulling now.
SMW
please take him...LOL
I called Caleigh last night..she would not talk to me on the phone..There was someone else there who had her attention so she would not talk on the phone.
Things are ok with me at the moment..I'm assuming Kim closed on the house yesterday..
Caleigh is at that age. There are times that Buddy will not talk to DH and other times that we cannot get him off the phone. Don't stress about it.
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Ohh I know..I thought I heard XFIL in the background runnin that wickerbill..I understand how hard it is to corral a 2 year old..I'm not stressed about it at all..
