Spoke with MIL concerning her xmas trip. I wanted her to give her son the option of going instead of me. She had no clue what has transpired...She was floored that her son served me papers!!
FIL said H mentioned he might file...FIL told H 'well...that's your decision'. FIL threw at me, phrase I said a couple times when I was frustrated...'you said if he isn't going to move back, just get the divorce!'
I said, yep...I've felt that way a number of times during the last 3 years.
MIL and FIL have not supported H's Lawyer-D at all financially nor do they agree w/what H is doing. They aren't going to disown him or anything...they just shake their heads and then...like Snodderly says...'stick their heads in the sand'.
MIL and I know H has to deal with this himself...we cannot do anything. They won't talk about this to H. They never talk about serious stuff....unless, H brings it up.
I'm surprised though, I really though H talked to his mom about signing D papers. He signed them on her birthday, and spoke w/her that day.
Another note,
My L left a message saying he wouldn't do anything further unless he heard from me. I don't know what that means. I don't want him to do anything to move a divorce along, but he should contact me if H's L contacts him, right?...so, I asked his repceptionist to only let me know if/when we hear anything from the 'other side'. No news...is okay.
I told her 'nothing personel, but I don't ever want to hear from you guys again'. We laughed.
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
