*Should I fight custody?*already signed sep.agr

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..r where I thought I might have to GO BACK to court in order to get them with me more, it passed. I figure there will be ebbs and flows in this as time moves on, but in the end I'm sure it will settle down. She told me once that we had different parenting styles (of course we didn't pre-sep & divorce)

thanks for reminding me this too shall pass and hopefully we'll find a happy medium.

It's hard to be objective when I see my son cry OT, it is not about me controlling all or having the upper hand, whatever will work for the best of my kids that's what I will do, obviusly him and I differ on what's best.
We did agree that we sorely needed the C to talk to both of us, for him to see how s10 is being affected, for me to learn the best way to deal with this.

So he calls me from the mediator/L and he is SUPER nice, I mean, fooled me for a while, talked how he "started on teh wrong foot about this, how his feelings are hurt that his kids don't want him, that he was afraid I was taking them away from him..." for a while I wanted to cry and say "NOW you get it?", but I just remained calmed, he actually said he was willing to work with the mediator again to see if we come to an agreement about visitation and our son, after talking to the C.
He was ssoooooooooo calm and serene, talking in the lowest tone of voice I've ever heard since this mess got started. Anyways, he kept talking how he didn't want to force kids, he wanted to be with him and make sure visitation was ok in case he got a bigger house and moved, yada yada... (which by the way, if we do indeed go back to mediation, I have to put there that kids have to stay in my district)

Later on he calls me, and I told myself not to go back to the same ol' merry go around, it was hard for he kept saying "but what is his problem? it's just a new partner, her kids are not monsters, you are projecting your feelings on him and that's why he is so negative with me" ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH damn it, I am NOT , I know gf is convincing him of this, why didnt' I do that earlier then? during the months after the separation? whatever, he thinks it's me poisoning him.
I told him the C will talk to both of us, because we will never agree, he just kept going back to what a good father he was, that (not that I cared) the gf's boy's father didnt' see him and here I was fighting him to keep son away.

PHLUASE, what does he want? a father of the year award????

Something is up, but whatever it might work out for the best since he is playing reasonable, let's see how long that lasts, he says the mediator will not be his L if I fight him on this, so he rather work it out with me in a nice way (he kept repeating it when he was at the guys' office), he wants it all go smoothly, and the guy told him I dont' have to sign anything now (ha! I wasn't going to anyways).

We'll see, the mediator/L prob told him I can make things very difficult and draw this out for a few months, and for some specific reason he wants this D asap.

He's going to C with son on Sat, and I'll talk to her next week, we'll see what happens.