H wants you to lead him out of his misery--he just can't admit it yet
I didn't mean this in a co-dependent way, just an awareness thing. H sees you taking steps to get better and maybe he wants some of what you are having. You need to get used to H being weird, because in his mind that is what he is getting from you. He sees something different in ba and he doesn't know how to react to you. I think he knows that it isn't business as usual.
Originally Posted By: ba
Well, a convo about how to love ME would be nice.
How do you make this happen? Could you have the conversation about how to love him, would that lead back to you? Five love languages is a good start, although you may want to give it a little more time.
Originally Posted By: ba
In the past I would have been so angry I would have avoided him the rest of the night, or we would have had a huge fight first. But I didn't get mad, I just thought, he's melting down because I am acting like an individual and this terrifies him.
Growth!
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