2008 = Crazy Year (Twisted 20)

[Puppy Dog Tails]

You are doing the right thing. Your W just wants a reason to be mad at you and is really pushing the communication thing. Maybe you should talk to her each morning about the activities for the day and ask her which she would like to do, then when she tries to throw it in your face you can say, W we discussed all of this earlier today remember!lol

kat

I agree with Kat -- take that whole objection off the table!

[lost_in_space]

(((Kat))) and Puppy,

Will work on that. Have to get over my internal anger at W's behavior.

Fighting some internal demons this morning. Part of me really wants to take W up on her offer for me to take k's to Hawaii (even though I mentioned to older 2 we were not going).

Part of me thinks 2 weeks with them will be wonderful. OM would not be around (compared scheds with OMW yesterday). Part of me thinks why not do this now when any debt would only be 50% mine should we D? I know the last reason is not good, but I am being honest.

So the internal battle rages.

[nutfarmer]

Told D16 and S13 about Hawaii. They were GREAT about it. Couldn't tell them all together because of schedules. Now have to tell my little sweetheart (D11).

Did you tell them why? I've inferred some underlying reluctance to tell the kids. I certainly understand it; I just wondered if you had taken the step.

Nut

[AlexEN]

Lost,

Did you tell them why or did yu just tell them you weren't going?

-A

[lost_in_space]

Alex,

For now it was a not going due to the financial situation given what is going on.

For now...

[kat727]

You guys might want to stop by H4H it is his 44th Birthday today!!

[lost_in_space]

HELP!!!!

Ok, W and I have been having a logistical text msg exchange. Have misunderstanding and she says no, it is communication and it needs to start. Her last comment to me was:

I have been asking for communication for eight years. I have valued that more than you realized obviously.


How to respond? My opening is I (now) understand how important that is for you and how I have not been meeting what you needed. Next?

I am in a meeting for a bit but can't let this slip too long.

Is this an opening or just more me / me / me????

[kat727]

I think this has been something that has been eating at her for a long time. Maybe she doesn't really want to take son to hockey practice but she wants you to ask her and give her the opportunity. If ever there was a time to take a chance and change that, it would be now. Go for it.

kat

[lost_in_space]

kat,
S is in a tournament out of town this weekend- w definitely wants to go. The issue arose because of whether she was staying o/n or driving home (90 minute drive). Thought we had that cleared up but obviously not.

[Tawnya]

Maybe add something about how you thought you had been working on having better communication..I dunno..what you said was good too..

It's so hard to know whether this is an opening or a me/me/me statement isn't it?? I suppose, as the convo unfolds, you'll get a clearer picture of that..

Tawnya