Puppy, I exposed to my family (mom, dad, brother, and aunt) and to my best friend, our pastor, and three members of the church. All really was in an effort to save my marriage. I was always seeking advice and perspective. The problem is she continues to deny having had an affair. The other day she said that this guy was a very close friend who became her "refuge" when she was down, but nothing else. That to me is bothersome enough. She wouldn't have wanted my refuge to be a single woman. Nevertheless, I wish I hadn't have spoken to my family, because as my wife points out, they probably won't forget this, so how is she supposed to feel about rebuilding our family when her in-laws view her in this way. I'm just so sick of not knowing for sure what happened between her and him!! My gut says she did sleep with him at least once, but that's still just a feeling and not a proven fact.
