Well, I'll jump in here...I think it's a matter of how it starts to be turned into doing this 180 to "reel her in"..etc. Smacks of manipulation. What if she read these posts? She'd say, oh Neil was just avoiding my texts to manipulate me. That would be just like Neil... Do you see what I'm saying?
And I think, Neil, you have to keep a constant guard on your heart...if you are working in therapy on dealing with narcissism. The tendency to manipulate for the other person to do what you want is something, for you personally, to be careful about. So I guess motivation is what's critical.
I will ditto what Phoenix had to say about that. I also bumped his post on the LRT.
