Jeannine, I've been so busy at work I've gotten far behind on everyone's sitches as well. Don't worry about it...we know you're thinking of us.
I'm so sorry to hear about your H losing his job and him withdrawing even more. It seems like this is worsening your symptoms.
I don't remember whether you see a therapist/counselor? Do you meditate? Do you take an antidepressant? Because your Dr. has not found a medical reason for all of your symptoms, and it's clearly stress-related, I want to encourage you to explore all options. I worry a lot about you!
Hoping things look up soon. I'm glad H is wanting to see this latest disappointment as a positive new beginning, but it sounds like he's having trouble doing so.