I don't believe in waiting til the marriage is over necessarily as it can take so long. In which case, a lot of us here should not be dating etc. I do believe if your properly seperated and both parties have accepted that (even if one is still clinging but it's been a long time) that it's fine to move on. I might be rocking the DB boat here !!!
I won't block texts Mike, but I will talk to her properly when I see her and tell her where I stand. Easier face to face than on the phone or text. I do like her, she seems real nice and she seems adamant her marriage is over and has been for a long time, but I will do my MC bit when we speak again, for the sake of her kids if nothing else.
It's a big ocean out there and there are plenty of very different but very lovely fishies !!!
Seems my STBX is really down at the moment, all she does is sleep when she can. The boys are out by about 8pm usually, but I rang yesterday lunchtime and she in bed, I had to pop to the house Saturday as forgot S2 bag of stuff and she in bed. She is always in bed. Sign of depression I'm told and she does suffer, but seems more sleeping than ever at the moment.
Oh, we also got into a chat the other day about stuff again and I mentioned that I was just so sad for the kids as they would be happier living with both unhappy parents trying than seperated parents. W's reply was, well, that's what all the religious stuff says, I've read the reverse. Kids will suffer if their parents are unhappy arguing all the time etc. YES EXACTLY, you have realised your unhappy, you work on why and what changes need doing, not go get a leg over with the first blokes that give you a few compliments !!! When this first kicked off and I knew not of the A, I was being nice etc and my W just could not do it and then said they was arguing and a bad atmosphere....Guilt sweetheart, guilt !!! Doh, so batchitt
