I kinda feel like I'm a bit like an OM and maybe me being on the scene is clouding this girls judgement.
you know what is right and wrong..your little voice is talking and it appears you hear it.
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Then suddenly she panicked and said she had been feeling rubbish since the chat earlier as what I was saying was making sense, that it's definately over and she is going to move things forward in the new year. She, he mum and dad and kids have gone away for the weekend, so she said she will speak to them this weekend about her sitch etc.
so she's making a decision then..is this based on what she wants/thinks/knows or is it based on this
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Said she knows I'm right and it's definately over
if you told her she was done then that is wrong. You can't interject yourself in the middle. This must be her decision for her reasons..
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Said she got scared that I wouldn't even speak to her again etc and that she would hate that.
this bothers me a bit..panic makes people make last minute, frantic decisions without thinking things through..
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I Said, please don't do anything for me or anyone else, you gotta do what is write for you and your kids. Divorce is chit and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, so would say if it's possible, try and work it out with ex. However, if that's not the case, it's 100% definately over, you've got to start moving on. Your wasting your life away and all to keep other people happy.
I like that you told her to try and work things out..now I say step back..way back..
