I forget who, but there was a byline used here along the lines of:
I trust God won't give my anything I can't handle, I just wish He didn't trust in me so much!
You have to wonder about His timing too!?
Glad to hear H is approaching the challange with a positive spin. Hope he continues to see it that way. As part of catching him doing right and to be his cheerleader, give him as much encouragement as you can about the way he is handling it. Any chance of starting up the dental lab of your own that you mentioned?
On a side note, I noticed in a newspaper a couple of days ago, a local support group for people dealing with Alzheimer’s and I was wondering if such a listing might be in found in your area? Any broadening of support will offer relief to counter the building of additional stresses and strains.
I hope some promising prospects reveal themselves soon...
The tightrope I've been walking on this year has just shrunk in diameter. I feel like I'm losing my balance.
Yesterday, while I was at the bank, I was informed that our account was temporarily overdrawn because when my H had deposited the final paycheck, he had also withdrawn $1,747 which was not covered by the pending check. So H had lied about the amount of the final check and had secretly kept a hefty amount of money to himself.
I asked him about it and could see that he was uncomfortable with my discovery. He gave me some questionable reasons for what he had done. The last thing he said about it was "I guess I was being selfish".
He also informed me that one of his co-workers (a female) had invited him out for a drink later. I was not invited. When I questioned him as to who all would be there, he said he didn't know. He also said that he would be uncomfortable in bringing me along.
On the night of the firing, H had received voicemails from his former staff members. The OW was one of them. He called each and everyone of them back from here, including her.
Yesterday evening, he decided to take a ride on his bike and mentioned that he might stop by to visit some friends. Again, I was not invited.
I'm sweating and trembling most of the time and find it very difficult practicing detachment.
I know that H needs my support and encouragement more than ever right now, but I need his as well.
The day of his firing, he asked me if I was disapointed in him. I told him "of course not". I also told him that I would be there for him and try to help in any way possible.
He's been soft and affectionate, but has not given me an sense of stability between us so far.
How I wish he'd see that this is not just about him, that it affects me as well and that his coninuing secrecy, and practice of excluding me from his inner circle, is wounding me to the core.
CJ was very hurtful in making it plain that I was not welcome on many of his outings earlier last year. It NEVER feels good to be left behind, left wondering, left OUT!
I really don't like the sound of him being "selfish" with his last paycheck!!!
It makes me wonder where his head is at. He sounds thrown, confused, vulnerable, needing escape and "distraction". I just hope that like CJ he finds his way back.
Oh heck, Jeannine...I just realized you might take my italisizing of "distraction" the wrong way...it's just that when CJ was agitated/depressed, he said he felt the urge for "distractions" (like shooting pool, going out, walks etc), and the word stuck with me.
Oh heck, Jeannine...I just realized you might take my italisizing of "distraction" the wrong way...
Nope. I understood what you meant....no problem.
A big "hello" and a huge hug to everybody.
I'm afraid that I'm falling hopelessly behind in keeping up with everybody's situation. I just don't have many opportunities to do my usual lurking and posting. But none of you are ever for from my thoughts.
I will post my updates whenever I find some safe time.
