But I have a real hard time supporting him right now since he has clearly made it "me" or "the music". Heck, while we were still together he announced he was afraid he would cheat because "you know how women are with lead singers of bands." Comments like that make it tough to rally be supportive.
I know! You know what doesn't make sense to me is how they get into the mentality of "you" or "music" even when it's so obvious you are supporting them. I had this conversation many times w. my H and I remember mentioning successful musicians who were M. Or that I wasn't standing in the way- I was proud of his commitment and his passion. I gave him so much "space" and he always had tons of time alone to work in his studio. What my H finally told me is that it was about money and time. (I think my H is more of a severe case) He felt like he wanted to spend 100% of his time on his music and that did not leave any place in his life for a relationship. Also, in my sitch- he doesn't work any other jobs- so he wanted to scrape by on $$ from his music only and that meant it was a burden for him to 'provide' to a wife or family. In any case, whatever the reasons are- the whole "you" or "the music" thing feels like an lame excuse. Ok- that was my rant!
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Loving Life, what's the latest with you? Have you walked away? Do you get out there and do stuff?
Yep, I am walking away right now- mostly b/c I think I deserve better and I think my M has little chance for success at this point. If for any reason he made steps to show any interest in me I might reconsider- but all he wants to talk about is the D settlement- so I think my sitch may be done.. We talk once a month if that (and live 2,000 miles apart right now) I am having a lot of fun getting out and meeting new people!!
BTW- Did you mention you're an artist too? I am as well (visual artist). Where are you located? I'm in Portland!
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
