Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

Wow-Loving_Life; sounds we are practically married to the same guy!

My H just called on speaker phone with stepson. And I got to listen to them argue for 40 minutes. My H calling SS names. SS being rude back. However, I have to say that SS was more lucid than H. H had obviously been drinking.

At one point, H threw something in SS's face about his sitch not being "normal" and SS threw back "Like having a DUI is normal, DAD!" And do you know what my H did? He first started with "I don't have a DUI. It might be downgraded to wreckless driving." I said that wasn't SS's point- the point was that H couldn't drive him to work- and couldn't drive period for 90 days. So then H is so pissed for being called out, he says to SS "Fine. I'm not going to go back east with you. You can go on your own. Find your own way. F you." ?!?!?! SS managed to bring it back down; but they way they talked to each other was horrible. Then they would ask me what I thought and then they would each get defensive. It is BEYOND screwed up over there. To my SS's credit, he has not had any substance for 9 days now. But the way my H talks to him...it's awful. And I know how SS pushes his buttons and get's a really crappy attitude.

Nik, you took such a long time to respond to me! And it was such a thoughtful post. I can't even think to respond right now I feel so tired. Well, I did want to respond to the "can I support him in his music" question. When he wanted to try out for RockStar, I was supportive. I would compliment his music. He would ask me to critique his singing. And if he was saying to me "I love you. I want our marriage to work, AND I want to see where music can go" I would wholeheartedly support him. I have connections; I could help him. But I have a real hard time supporting him right now since he has clearly made it "me" or "the music". Heck, while we were still together he announced he was afraid he would cheat because "you know how women are with lead singers of bands." Comments like that make it tough to rally be supportive.

*sigh*

Why can't I just walk away?
Loving Life, what's the latest with you? Have you walked away? Do you get out there and do stuff?