Sorry I haven't been on for awhile- I read your latest posts.
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I think that my H is more attached to the RM than to his son or me. I think that the RM is sort of tied up with the whole "I want to see where the music goes" deal. RM is on that adventure with him. RM is helping him "get there". So, I can see where RM would be the most important thing to H, given that music is the most important thing.
I don't remember if I told you this but my H/stbx is a musician too- and we were together 14 yrs also... He's in exactly the same place about how the music is #1 and he's now got an RM who is in his mid 20's to help pay the mortgage on the house. His RM is a tech for the band and a new partner in his recording studio. He thinks this life is way better than our M or any R with a woman could possibly be. It's one thing to be passionate about music, but it's a huge attitude problem to act like women get in the way and that's BS you do not deserve. You deserve so much better, right?! My stbx has also had issues with drugs... and his RM of course smokes a ton too- which is not helping him. My heart goes out to you.... You can have a better man than this and so can I!!!
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
