She keeps saying that it's my responsibility to make sure that her material needs are met--vacations, cars, beauty salons.
Unbelievable! I am glad you value yourself enough to realize that self care is important. It sounds like she wants you to change jobs just for the sake of money, but that would be a disaster for you. I wish your wife could realize how lucky she is to have you for a husband, and be willing to work WITH YOU for vacations, cars, beauty salons, ec.
