Is there a glimmer of hope for I'mstillhopeful ?

[I'mstillhopeful]

Another update,
When H brought me back to the house for dessert on Thanksgiving Eve he opened a belated Anniversary card from my parents. Inside the envelope was a check which my parents had written to both of us. A week later he called to suggest that he bring the card of thanks which he had started so that I might add my sentiments and send it. Later, he sent an e-mail which included the words: "We really must do dinner again in December, so that would be sometime soon."

It made me wonder if the urgency has something to do with filing papers before the New Year. I sent an e-mail which didn't address the issue of dinner but thanked him for initiating the thanks to my parents. A few days later I forwarded an e-mail from a mutual friend. His reply mentioned that he was planning to help me clean the chimney and asked for a convenient time. I replied warmly and basically said that any time the snow was off the roof would be absolutely wonderful. He had mentioned that he had injured his finger so I also added that we might want to wait until his finger healed.

There was no contact for five days, then a phone call reminding me to use anti-creosote powder so the chimney would be easier to clean. And today, another phone call during which he invited me to have dinner on Christmas Eve. I'm a little less apprehensive about dinner at this point. Could he possibly initiate discussion about D on the night before Christmas?

I do notice that the tone of his voice is much warmer than it was a year ago. I recognize that this is a very long and slow process. And, if he does decide to make our split final, I know that I have done everything possible to restore our marriage. He may be looking for an unrealistic endorphin rush of romantic infatuation and is disregarding a friendship and partnership which he has said were rewarding, exciting and inspiring. We have bicycled thousands of miles all over the world together on our bicycle for two. Believe me, that is a real partnership. Once on a particularly long trip he mused that he wished he could incorporate that kind of activity with the couples he saw in therapy because it was so enhancing to a relationship.