Nasmat, I just finished your autobiography. (just teasing)
My exact view of things that were going through my mind from your initial post.
I believe you have hit the nail on the head in most all areas.
Your husband is quite a man and yet I would venture to say that he really did begin to feel as if you were the husband. He has a deep need to feel masculine within him again.
I believe you are on the correct path. To bring out his masculine side, he would need your feminine side to come out. I hope you can see that feminine is quite an attraction to a man for him to feel masculine.
It doesn't have to be June Cleaver, which I believe you already have realized. Softness, tenderness,sexy,confident comes to mind.... I also think that a good cry in front of him would do you no harm and would not recommend that you try to hold back at your next meeting if your emotions dictate. (in this case only ladies reading) I am assuming you haven't shown him that part of your femininity. (Just an assumption on my part.)
You have wisdom. The Bible says wisdom is one of the greatest traits to have. I agree with that.
