Day's going pretty good today. H has been emailing me and being quite nice. So good, no drama from him. He's supposed to see D tonight and bring her to Religious Ed and then we're supposed to meet up. I've heard this before and NOT falling for that again. If it happens, great. If not, great.
H emailed me asking me where to drop off D for Religious Ed. I asked him if it's easier if I just pick her up from his parents and then asked if we're still meeting up while she's in class. I made it very casual sounding.
He replied saying it was fine that I pick her up and then said "I know you are going to think that I'm trying to push it off and that is not what I'm trying to do, but what would be the possibility of getting together this weekend to talk? The customer is leaving tomorrow afternoon and we still have a lot to get through before then, I really should get back here to work on this stuff for a bit and Ill also be in early tomorrow with them. Friday is the day that all of this will go away and will not have to worry about it any more, new roll will start with less stress and time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
I replied with "Why don’t you just stay at work and get what you need done then? No need to waste a couple hours driving in and out of town when you can see her in a few days anyway. As far as not meeting up again again, that’s fine. What happened to you sending me this letter instead of getting together since this is the outcome when we try to meet? I really have nothing to say, just planned on listening to what you have to say."
He'll probably take that reply as me being mad, and that wasn't my intention at all. I'm trying to make it easier on him and give him another way to communicate with me.
Hope your weather is behaving better than your governer!
Did you get an appt set up with your C?
Gosh, Illinois really has a reputation these days. My mom grew up with the former gov. Ryan. They went to school together, and everyone hung out together. My how times have changed!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
So H replied: "No, I really want to see D, I haven't been feeling good about myself lately and she always makes me feel a little better, I'm sure you know how that is.
I deleted the letter last week in frustration, BUT I will put it back together and send it to you no later then Friday before you leave for work so you will know some of the things that have been going through my head. (side note from me: I think this is a crock of crap)
I am sorry for everything that has gone on and for this long!
It is as if he has this big speech planned but chickens out.
What is so important that he cannot just discuss with you on the phone or in an email?
Seems like he has been saying for weeks that he wants to talk.
Maybe instead of setting aside time for him say that you have plans or are busy. Let him be the one waiting and waiting instead of you.
I think I would try hard to be still, no contact unless necessary like money issues, picking up your daughter that sort of thing.
I am wondering if one day he thinks one way, next day something else and he just cannot face you right now.
My h went thru this period for a few months where he would feel one way then another and it went back and forth for awhile. I just left him alone.
Very frustrating........
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You're right, it's VERY frustrating. I told myself I wouldn't get worked up and I am but only a bit. He's been like this almost the whole 28 months MWG. It's time for a change. That's for sure. I am going to force myself to life my live for me and D.
