I have to say that when I stopped fighting my wife on every issue, things became an awful lot calmer and easier for me - even though I had to flex in some ways I found "challenging". In my experience goodwill breeds goodwill...and that, I read somewhere, is the cornerstone of friendship...
Originally Posted By: John210
Don't sweat the small stuff and enjoy your kids!
A couple of positive quotes for you to think about.
Originally Posted By: Toastada
That party is on a Tue night. She has the kids that prior weekend, the kids come here after school on Mon and return to her on Wed. She has plenty of time and all her relatives know the deal she has created for herself. I'm sure she just told them it would be no big deal and she could just take them whenever she wants. Its not an inconvenience and I'm sure I'm playing this all wrong, but, there are consequences to her actions. It's not all great and perfect now. The point of it is she has been a total jerk to me. Then I get this very nice email from her about this. Now because she wants something from me, she has to be all nice. That's what ticked me off. She has ignored me and blown me off over and over. I dont think me caving into her every need and wish right now is going to change anything.
I'm not trying to down play things but this is the type of drama you need to get away from, this is the small stuff (small to us) that you shouldn't sweat on. These are the type on things you shouldn't fight on.
Enjoy your time with the kids and try to find some way to maximise it and make it enjoyable for all.
