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Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... Tawnya #1670604 12/10/08 06:27 PM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,834 Western New York N Neilh23 OP Member
OP Neilh23 Member N Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,834 Western New York	ok...so seeds of doubt are creeping in..... what if this is what she wants....me to just detach and go away? I know...i suck at this self-confidence thing...but.......why do i feel like i'm reading the sitch wrong????? it's just bizarre.... ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08 "Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... Neilh23 #1670611 12/10/08 06:37 PM
Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,470 M mulesqb Member
mulesqb Member M Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,470	Then you are detaching from an unhealthy situation for yourself and you will start to move forward also. You can start living your life for just you and the girls. Listen, this may or may not work - but you need to move away for your own good. Maybe she'll take notice. But Neil - it's time to do something different - I think you know that. M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09 "Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... mulesqb #1670615 12/10/08 06:41 PM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,834 Western New York N Neilh23 OP Member
OP Neilh23 Member N Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,834 Western New York	yeah mules...i do. just got a text from W.....asking why i hadn't responded to her email....asking if i'm trying not to contact her or reply often. yet, i always responded..... she's noticed. now what do i do? ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08 "Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... Neilh23 #1670622 12/10/08 06:46 PM
Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 18,296 P Puppy Dog Tails Member
Puppy Dog Tails Member P Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 18,296	say either "oops, I was busy" or "sorry -- I forgot". Being both busy, and so busy that you forget to make them #1, are good, healthy ways to show your detachment. Also, don't use the "sorry" word every time -- just every once in awhile.

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... Neilh23 #1670623 12/10/08 06:47 PM
Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,470 M mulesqb Member
mulesqb Member M Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,470	Originally Posted By: Neilh23 yeah mules...i do. just got a text from W.....asking why i hadn't responded to her email....asking if i'm trying not to contact her or reply often. yet, i always responded..... she's noticed. now what do i do? Been busy - everything with the girls ok? M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09 "Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... mulesqb #1670625 12/10/08 06:48 PM
Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,470 M mulesqb Member
mulesqb Member M Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,470	Darn - that Puppy is quick - beat me to it. M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09 "Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... mulesqb #1670631 12/10/08 06:52 PM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,834 Western New York N Neilh23 OP Member
OP Neilh23 Member N Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,834 Western New York	responded with... "Oops. Busy. Yeah I got it. Ok." let's see what happens. i can honestly say i didn't think she'd respond so quickly to the 180.... is this what you mean, SMV, by slowly "reeling them in?" ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08 "Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... Neilh23 #1670636 12/10/08 06:54 PM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,045 Virginia S StrgMarvelousWmn Member
StrgMarvelousWmn Member S Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,045 Virginia	Yep---very slowly, so slowly they do not realize it is happening. Then, they will jump in the boat with you, happy to be caught. SMW M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... mulesqb #1670637 12/10/08 06:54 PM
Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 18,296 P Puppy Dog Tails Member
Puppy Dog Tails Member P Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 18,296	Originally Posted By: mulesqb Darn - that Puppy is quick - beat me to it. Yeah, but yours is better. Pushes it right back to the kids.

Re: Independence Day on the Lake Erie shore..... Neilh23 #1670639 12/10/08 06:57 PM
Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 1,948 ND P Phoenixdeux Member
Phoenixdeux Member P Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 1,948 ND	Quote: what if this is what she wants....me to just detach and go away? I know...i suck at this self-confidence thing...but.......why do i feel like i'm reading the sitch wrong????? it's just bizarre.... Go read that post about the last resort technique. Detaching isn't for her...it's for you. Whether you are attached or detached makes no difference to what she does. She is going to do what she's going to do. You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer

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