I agree almost entirely with what you said. I think exposure is fine. I don't know that it kills the affair, but it may. Other than that, there really isn't a whole lot to do to make them quit. For your own self-preservation I think the cheater should be kicked to the curb, but that's just me.
I do think that what goes hand in hand with the exposure is to quit being a dick and start working to be an attractive alternative. And to get some self-esteem and not grovel because the spouse is cheating.
But I don't think you could look at a whole lot of marriages that are in no trouble at all and find that a spouse is cheating. I don't think one or the other woke up one day and said, "I think I'll cheat just for the fun of it", and then decided it was so good that they would get divorced. No, the marriage was crappy which made them succeptible to OM/OW and having an open mind about the possibility. Once someone is actually hot and heavy in the affair though, it has a life of it's own....you won't have success while OP is in the picture.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
