PUPPY...

I honestly don't know if I can DB anymore. He is sending me all these emails about the custoday arrangements he wants and how he wants to be civil. He doesn't want to fight with me but he has nothing left to give.

He said he tried this summer to see if it would work but what he did was validate his point that we couldn't be together.

In my opinion, all he reall did was try to validate his opinion that it wouldn't work all summer. He didn't actually work on the marriage nor work on trying to make anything between us better. He says it was over the summer he realized that the issues we have just were not going to go away and that we just couldn't be togher.
My only comeback to that is that if you are searching and searching for every reason NOT to be together or make it work then that is what you are going to get. IF he truly wanted to make the marriage work then he would have seen all the postives that were going on as well. But that isn't the case.

So he every chance he got he would say..see this is why we will never be married or ..this is why we can't make it work.etc..

NEVER once did he ever say..wow..keep this going and we could really turn this around. Or anything to that effect. That was what I was saying. NOT him.
So at this point I can not possibly see how I could ever get him to change now. I can not see how when it got this far and he desperately needed to validate and justify his reasonings for leaving how in God's name I could make him think twice or want to work on the marriage now.

I will continue to work on me. Because I have to. I will continue to set goals for me, because I need to. But unless I am totally missing something here what good is DB going to do when it is so clear that he is checked out and done with the M???

Kristi


M:35
H:39
S:13
D:9
M:10 yrs
T:12 yrs
Bomb 2/9/08
Divorce filed 10/17/08