Tom, I really do think it's wonderful that you accept your responsibilities and are avoiding your own MLC by working on yourself without fleeing. That shows true character and maturity.
One day, your W will realize that and will regret the path she's taken.
You are doing really well, and you will reap the true rewards of her actions because you will be stronger, closer to your family, and closer to God. I'll pop by your thread later to read up and offer support. I've been doing too much taking lately. Thank you for your kind words. They help, and they make me hopeful.
Mamanpc - I totally feel you on the "great guy, great compromise" part. What's so funny is I thought for a long time that he was compromising on me when I now see that he was fighting for me and desperately trying to make me happy despite my actions. Now, he's compromising on someone else because my self-awareness didn't stir any desire to change until now. Makes me cringe....
Journal;
Wanted to come back real quick to write down a few goals and center myself.
Personal:
1. If I'm in this sitch because I wasn't being a mature adult, that means I need to get on the mature adult horse. My goal by the end of the week is to: ---Do all laundry. ---Clean the bathrooms. ---Grocery shop. ---Do a major cleaning - baseboards, floors, etc. ---Go through all of the bills sitting around and file them. ---Make a budget for myself to figure out how things will work alone. ---Make a list of all bills to be changed into my name, their due dates, etc. Have that to discuss when H comes over if needed.
2. Exercise.
3. Work through my scripture exercises more diligently.
4. Get back on the horse at work. I am avoiding doing my job.
5. Write Christmas cards.
6. Finish decorating for Christmas.
7. Bake some Christmas cookies. Maybe give some to H's family? Not sure.
Relationship:
1. H to initiate contact with me that is not centered around something to do with finances/planning.
Thank you for your kind words. They help, and they make me hopeful.
