Well, it was a short pity party!

Last night I was on FB, W came in the room, and I didn't hear her. She asked what I was doing, I told her I was keeping up with some friends.

w: Where did you meet these friends?
me: On-line.
w: They are all women. (That's not true, though there are certainly a lot of them.)
me: I met them on a site to try to help M's.
w: How do you know they are what they say they are?
me: They could all be lying.
w: I'm not sure I'd talk about M trouble to strangers on-line. You should think about your motives.
me: OK. What did you want? (She had a catalog in her hand, clearly came in to ask a question.)

For being completely shocked when she snuck up (not on purpose, just the way it was) behind me, I thought I reacted pretty well. At least I didn't jump up to the ceiling! And maybe it got her thinking some more.