Life in the Rough - A Liar's Game?

[Silent Chrleader]

Hi, {{Hope}}.

I so understand what you are going through because I am in the exact same position right now. I have been with my H since I was 17 and we were each other's "first, last & only". I am a hopeless romantic to the core, and even am guilty of an addiction to those "bodice ripper" romance books since I was a teenager. I honestly don't know if I can ever get past the thought of him being with OW. The pain is beyond anything I've ever felt!


But, I envy you that your H has commited to really working on your M and making it right, and will hug you and show you affection. My H is in C with me and is working to "do the right thing", but it seems to be mostly due to guilt and he still says he doesn't want to be married. He is still so "tight" and afraid of any "pressure" at all, or how I will take it that he won't even hold my hand. And I so need and miss that!

So, hang in there!! I think your M is gonna survive this!! You seem to have all the ingredients for success.....

[1hope]

Thanks SC,

Having a hard time today. I want to thank you for your wonderful and positive post yesterday. I typed a wonderful response, but must have closed out before sending, because it is long gone. I'm sorry, I really appreciate the things that you said. I try to be positive, but it's been a really long haul and for some reason I am struggling today.

[MT35]

Hope, Sorry that you aren't having a great day today. This time of year makes everything so much bigger and worse I think. I am thinking about you and hoping you will get your spirit back too!

[Babygirl]

hey sweetie, hang in there, lets try to remember it will get better someday, it has too.
hugs

[Silent Chrleader]

If my words helped in any way, then I am very glad! I am normally a very intuitive and emotional person, and have always been very open, especially with my H. Sitting on my tonge and "letting go" and choosing to be happy in myself is a constant struggle! If you check out my thread, you will see that I am by no stretch of the imagination an example of good DB'ing.

I really try to just keep telling myself that I don't need to live my whole life today. Only this moment. I tell myself this because I am the world's worst for "future f**king" myself! (I'm sorry if I offend by that phrase).

But, I still think of the OW all the time and sometimes wish I could just face her and tell her what I think of her.....or scratch her eyes out! ........or pull all her hair out .........or run over her with my car....no, not the car, the big monster truck (we have a Ford F350 Crew Cab)........

Lucky for her, I'm a pacifist!

Take care, [[[[[[Hope]]]]]]!!

[MT35]

Hey SC- I will add my Hemi Dodge to your F350, and we could drag all the OW around for a bit, wouldn't that be fun, tie them to the trailer hitch and letter rip!!!! LOL! Thanks for the chuckle!

[Yoyowife]

Hi,
I'm a poster in infidelity, but I lurk over here. My H is a cliche also. He decided that his secretary was more important than his family. Believe me she is no prize! So many people are shocked when they find out that he had an affair with her.

We own a construction company. After you get finished dragging the OW around,(please include my H's OW) we have a backhoe that we can use to bury the trash! LOL

[Silent Chrleader]

Hi, MT & Yoyo. I like the way y'all think! It's so nice to know I'm not the only "pacifist" in the bunch......

......And I have 40 acres of land out in the middle of nowhere, where we could bury the trash and it would never be found....or, I have a better idea! We can have a really BIG "funeral pyre"....oops, I mean "bon fire" ....we could roast weenies and marshmallows!!

[Silent Chrleader]

.....By the way, sorry for the hijack of your tread, Hope, but you know what they say about when the cat's away.....

[MT35]

OH, I am sure Hope won't mind a bit, she has some big tools also that we can all use to take care of all of our lacking OW. I live in stip pit land, so we have DEEP pits that I would guarantee there are bodies in that will never be found! No one would be the wiser!