Look girly, at this point there's no right or wrong answer in your actions. Your doing a good job with what you got. You know my H OW was 10-11 years younger than both of us and never had any kids. She didn't have stretch marks, baby nursed boobies, nor birthing hips nothing. She had no responsability and was making probably about $10,000 per month at her job. She traveled globally, was foreign, you get my drift.... heck I wonder why he came home it sounds like so much fun! I'm just a simple girl from Arkansas with two kids, a belly pooch from babies,the girls certainly aren't nearly at attention like they used to be before kids, not working (going back to school)...hhmm now if your looking on the surface who seems like the better deal?
She was offering him a little house in Greece, a little fishing boat, everything she knew that could hook him. She even told him she was going to have her eggs frozen so when things settled between us they could have a baby together. H had a vas when daughter was 6 months old. He never wanted anymore kids, but he told her he would do it. He now says he wouldnt' have done it.
Heck, I never understood what or where she thought his other kids where going to disappear to. I guess she just thought he would abandon them like her dad did to her. She appeared to show great interest in my daughters relationship with my H though (in a creepy way) she talked a lot about her in their communications while barely mentioning the boy.
Sorry, got side tracked again in the pyschology of it all. LOL
What I am saying it really doesn't matter what the other package looks like because it's not about them it's about your H.
May God bless you and yours on this special day and just so you know SMW, I prayed hardest for the OW and still add her in every now and then....(she's a lost soul and I always pray that she has her own restoration with her own covenant husband and of course, her salvation).
Blesssings
Sandy--
I still struggle with praying for the OW in a positive way,. Most times, I just pray for God and the Holy Spirit to convict her of her destructive actions so that she will turn away from my DH. If that hedge of thorns grows every time I pray it, it has got to be HUGE right now.
I guess with the OW in my sitch being so much older than DH, the only positive I see to her is the empty house--since her kids are older than ours. She is sagging more, she has no goals or ambitions in life, and she is pathetic enough to find joy in a lifestyle that is destroying the lives of innocent children. Not much of a bargain there, huh? He will get it eventually. I just pray I have not grown so much out of this that I struggle to accept him back.
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
