My Ws parenting "responsibilities" rite now are about 50/50. She does the morning routine I do the afternoon. I told her during our Tuesday conv that I had all the "morning" responsibilities worked out after D....if you coulda seen her face! I really don't care about the A anymore....she has NO support from most of her friends/family from what I have been told and heard....most of those same people don't even support her other FAKE reasons for a D! I have been keeping upnon your sitch A....I feel for your....not an envious spot to be in IMHO.
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Where did I leave off..... Not really in the mood to post up my own stuff so I throw a couple zingers to you guys here and there. D9 and I went to bday party on Friday....not sure where W went for night...I was tired from working in the 10 degree weather to even give it a thought when we got home. Had a so so Saturday. Ws best friend and daughter were in town for D12s murder mystery bday party that night. I had her dye my greys again....damn I am smokin!! Party was nice...had 1 of the moms comment to me that her husband does hardly anything like this......attending every kids event...coaching soccer...helping run D12s party. I told her to mention how "fabulous a husband/dad I am to my W"...I told her she loves to hear that stuff....cruel??? W and I worked together really well at the party and were very polite to each other....I look at these interactions with less "emotion" lately....I used to mention this stuff to her whenever we did something nice together....that=pursueing....pursueing bad!! Ws BFF and another friend were talking about how we interact so well together....why would we get a divorce?? She shared that with me...my answer...ask her. Got home from party..W and I had a couple drinks...5hrs with 23 12yr olds who wouldn't need one!! Gonna end here and grab a smoke....Sunday thru today will be next!!
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
I'm so happy you are UPDATING {{{Carp}}} Can't wait to hear more The murder mystery party sounds wonderfully..bet your daughter was the HIT of the evening/week for sure on that one
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Smoke break over..it's chilly and snowy out but damn is my bed warm!
Tawnya I will try to get the pics up on FB....pushing the "upload" button on my phone hurts!!
Sunday... Worked all day W called around noon for update as to my time home. She was tired and said she was gonna nap a bit then clean up from her friends being in town and throw a roast in the oven. I told her I would be home around 4pm and wanted to put up the Xmas tree and stuff I bought on Saturday....I forgot this part! WAnd I threw out our old Xmas tree last year...I told her I would buy a new one and decorations and stuff. I bought it all...tree..ornaments...garland..tree topper..about $300 worth of stuff. I told her to leave all our stuff in it's boxes...only the stuff the kids made or very special ones could be put on the new tree. I got home, showered, got the new tree mostly up by dinner. After we eat as a family me and the girls start with the decorating....I ask W for a little advise/help...is it centered...garland ok...stuff like that. She didn't really "do" anything. We watch House for a couple hours together then off to bed.
Monday Working all these Sundays meens extra $$ for me! I shoot an email to W during the day....gonna run some errands after work will be home for us to take kids to C. I have dinner with some friends at their house then off shopping!! We hit Kohls and I get some new pants and shirts and a sweet leather jacket. Run to Target for some "necessities" then home. I bring my booty upstairs...W notices and comments on my taste and the fact that stuff was on sale!! We take the kids to C. C wanted to meet with us and the kids for a few minutes...she says kids are doing well...they don't want to hear about "adult" things...stuff like that. We had about 40 mins to kill until kids were done. I asked W to go to grab some snacks at Subway while we waited. We chatted about "nothing" I was friendly, funny, like if I was on a date. We go back and get kids....head home and all go to bed.
Today Work...what a suprise!!! I get home and decide...grilled cheese and soup for dinner!! My first attempt....no one vomited/died! I was supposed to go to small group...didn't really feel like it...just kinda spent some alone time out and about.
Couple things...popular opinion (my mom) is that W is being friendly to "soften" me up....not gonna happen! When I say soften I mean so she can get what she wants as far as the D goes. I have a meeting with my A on Thursday. We are gonna hash out what I want as far as D and my chances for custody. My W has told me 100 times not to trust her...all the things she told me from her A as well as her actions lead me to not trust her parenting skills either. Does anyone have any insight on this?
Ws family has nowhere to have Xmas this year!! For the last few years it has been here....looks like 1 more year. Any thoughts on this? My moms .02c....tell my W to ask OM to have it at his house....sorry...2 bedroom condo...LOL!! Thumbs hurt Later all
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Party was nice...had 1 of the moms comment to me that her husband does hardly anything like this......attending every kids event...coaching soccer...helping run D12s party. I told her to mention how "fabulous a husband/dad I am to my W"...I told her she loves to hear that stuff....cruel???
Wow {{{Carp}}} Sounds like a busy week and glad to know you cook and didn't kill anyone..there is hope yet
Congrats on the stuff you bought..I really would like a sweet leather jacket too..I look at them at Penney's everytime I go thru..I haven't looked at Kohl's..will have to check it out
Question for you and for anyone really..and I know everyone is probably different..will you buy your spouse anything for Christmas? I'm kinda up in the air about this one..my hub NEVER wants anything anyway..of course I always buy him something..but just curious
As far as the Christmas with W's family..I guess the question is how will that be for YOU? Sounds like you guys are communicating friendly enough that you could get thru it without killing anyone..but of course this year is totally different than any other year you've had..which way are you leaning?
Hope your day is good..sorry your thumbs are hurting LOL..type on the computer..you get to use more fingers that way
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
The murder mystery party sounds wonderfully..bet your daughter was the HIT of the evening/week for sure on that one 
