I screwed up again

[AlexEN]

AN,

You might want to take a look at the board I suggested to Beth on her thread... It's a thread with various posters thoughts on both the ring question and whether or not to tell the kids.

I'm a much slower learner (perhaps to the point of too little, too late) than you appear to be. Your thoughts are all very rational in a time that has all too much upheaval.

Beth,

I think you're right on target with this comment for AN (and it applies in my sitch, too):

While it appears that it is your choice to fight her or let them go, that is a false dichtomy, she made the choice to leave you. Now she wants to have her cake - leaving her marriage and eat it, too - taking the kids with her.

My wife wants to leave the marriage (which, despite her protestations to the contrary) means running away from our family. She wants to present a united front to them, when nothing could be farther from the truth. It is definitely "having her cake..."

-AlexEN