Beth,

I just read about your experience. I did have one little episode with the ring as well that made me feel uncomfortable, but not because I had taken it off, but because I lied about it.

It was my D5 who made a comment about Daddy's ring (she is a little princess and loves jewelry, so it is one of her favorite topics). She noticed I had taken it off. I do not remember the exact reason I told her, but of course it was not the truth.
So I started thinking what I would tell other people asking about it (or something else related to our R). Would I tell them the truth? During the 2 weeks my W was gone, I did not. I did not lie about it, but I certainly left out anything that would have exposed her. I really do not know if I want to continue protecting her. I have not made up my mind, but I am leaning towards telling more of the truth to everybody who asks about it. A part of me still wants to protect her to keep the option alive for her to come back without any "damage". The other part of me says she did the damage by walking away, not me by telling people about it.

So you see I am making progress detaching, but by no means I have arrived at the end of the tunnel yet.

AN


M43 W45, M17
S9 D6
Bomb: 11/11/08
EA: 10/26-12/31/08 ?
Retrouvaille: 2/13-2/15/09
Healed, but still heading for D
My situation