Still More to Learn

[AnotherNightmare]

Beth,

I would just consider your boss's wife one of those "well-meaning friends". They look at it from the outside without truly understanding your situation and your feelings. Ignore her! I know it is hard, but the only way you get through this is to trust your heart to tell you what you really want and need and your brain to tell you how to get there.

Everybody is different. Leave your ring on, if it is does not make you feel better. In my case, I think taking it off helps me detach. I even forgot that I took it off (as you can tell from my own thread). But if you keep thinking about it, then it is probably better to leave it on until you are ready.

One of the things my IC said about death was "It makes people reflect on things. They may realize that life is too short." Especially since it was a suicide, maybe it is a wake-up call for H. I know your fear goes the other way. That is a possibility, too, but stay positive! It is out of your control.

AN