Jeanine, Great news on your results so far! I cant believe how many people have been through this! It makes me want to pay close attention because it may be a matter of time for me too! I lost a bunch of weight too when this happened to me from the huge amount of stress. Great news Jeanine ! And I agree with everyone- you sound so much stronger. This is a big step too. In some ways, your H and his "antsy" feeling may be some of his MLC and trapped feelings gnawing at him. IMHO, I think you did the right thing letting him go and encouraging him. I used to do that with my H - he just had to get out of the house. It made him feel trapped and brought on lots of bad feelings about OR. Unfortunately, he had to explore before he came back to hopefully work on us again. I think you are doing the right things and suppoting him, making it safe to be with you. In order to combat him possibly moving out, just be you fun upbeat self he will want to be with- the girl he married. Other than that, you cannot control his actions, just be calm and peaceful and his ally when he needs it. Even though he is moody, I think there are some positives here. It may jsut take time- it has taken me 2 years to get back to being liked again! Now that you are at your fighting weight, as my H calls it, what can you do that is different ? Like maybe take on a physical activity. Maybe catch his attention in a really positive light?? When you feel up to it of course...just some random thoughts! You have so many friends here and mega posts it is hard to keep up!!! Congrats Jeanine!
Yea, I'm still dodging and weaving, but I am feeling more and more anxious with each new day. Just trying as hard as I can to stay in the here and now.
I can feel my nerves starting to misfire.
Glad you had fun following the posts yesterday. I was laughing so hard at one point, I had to be careful about drinking water and reading at the same time. I came close to accidentally irrigating my sinus'.
his "antsy" feeling may be some of his MLC and trapped feelings gnawing at him
I think you may be right about that. I often wonder what kind of battle is going on inside of him.
I can only hope that perhaps some small forgotten part of him is fighting to hold on to our M and that that part will expand with time and the removal of those things that make him push away.
A show of fear on MY part might only serve to feed HIS fear of staying. So I must walk a fine line.
Are we talking about the rant on my new thread name? If so I DO remember sexual innuendos, and SOMEONE misreading my comment to Sage about "Getting it"...
Now please tell me this is IT so I don't have to go back and re-read everyone's thread again!!!
