Finding my goodness and power

[AmyC]

It was the undertone of her needing to seek my approval in the interaction that was the point

I disagree that she was seeking approval.
I think you somehow seemed annoyed to her - which - BTW - is how she's going to interpret your detachment because she is SO immature at this point...

I was more drawn to THIS:

W: Is that ok with you, you seem annoyed.

Me: I'm not annoyed, I have no feelings either way

Right - perhaps not about the table but I sensed you wished to convey that you had no feelings about ANYTHING - which is only wishful thinking for you at this point - and a spiteful thing to say. I am about 99.9% sure THAT was a real undertone.

Dhe gets the boundaries but I'm afraid she doesn't get why

Tough crap.

Life will teach her.

Just like it teaches the rest of us.