Yes, I hate my W all the time for what she has done. I have never stopped loving her. I never purposely set out to be mean to her so that she was punished. She wanted me to a have a revenge affair; but I wouldn't do it. I told her that two wrongs do not make a right. so I am different than your H. He seems to hold a grudge for too long and is not willing to do the real work for the M to survive.
If he's so hell bent on confronting the OM; he sure is not making any moves to do so. he needs to crap or get off the pot, IMO.
