It was the undertone of her needing to seek my approval in the interaction that was the point.
This morning she is here as I pack my stuff to go to the Las Vegas data center. She asked me if I wanted her to make extra coffee as she wanted some this morning and I told her not to make more than she needed.
I also was sitting eating cereal and looking at my bowl as I ate. I caught her out of the corner of my eye glancing at me several times.
Dhe gets the boundaries but I'm afraid she doesn't get why.