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[GFI]

Hi there Tostada - under the circumstances it takes a will of iron not to be drawn deeper into "the game" - my first thought would have been to sign D up for something on W's night!

But of course that gains nothing but short term satisfaction and likely would create problems further on down the line as well as upping the stakes...

I know you desperately will want to make sure things are fair and this feels like things have tipped - but if you can, does it help to see things from your D's POV? Is there anything you and S can do while your D is involved in that class? Even if it involves taking a ball along to kick? Tennis, swimming, crosswords - anything will do if you can get your S interested...

The least damaging way of viewing this for you is likely to be to go with the flow and just remember this as showing your flexibility and goodwill for some time in the future when you might need it reciprocating...

I have to say that when I stopped fighting my wife on every issue, things became an awful lot calmer and easier for me - even though I had to flex in some ways I found "challenging". In my experience goodwill breeds goodwill...and that, I read somewhere, is the cornerstone of friendship...

Best - GFI