The long story of my WAH - need guidance and hope.

[mamanpc]

hi tom-marriedCrazy.
it sounds like i was in a similar sitch as your W (and my H as you) - running out on the family. Now i'm trying to come back but meanwhile H met someone else so now we're a bit of a triangle at the moment...

i will read your sitch - i'm sure i can learn something from you.
And Nasmat i agree with Tom - great introspection that provided some insights to me too - my mom was also SAHM and my dad left her for 2 years when had his MLC - then he came back. She suffered tremendously and i witnessed all that. Only to do practically the same thing my Dad did, at the same age. so probably, like you nasmat, i was 'being Dad' so that i wouldn't suffer like Mom did. And i was denying my own emotions of love because if you're not in love, then you don't get hurt. So i spent all these years with H saying to myself 'he's a great guy, a great compromise, i couldn't find anyone better - but i'm not really in love iwth him.' who was i kidding?
Bon courage to all of you.