So, I think we are on the verge of entering into 'talks'. My faith in our ability to get anywhere is pretty shaky. The distance between her reality and mine are so vast and I don't know how to bridge it.
The latest version of why she left centers around the issue of 'putting her first' over our daughter.
This means never disagreeing with her in front of our daughter, even if she is only asking for my opinion, with the assumption that I will agree with her, as an example of how she wants me to 'back her up' and 'present a united front' in parenting.
While she has put down her latest requirement, I have a number of things that I want, but would involve addressing her behaviours, past, present and future, vis a vis our family.
And I know we won't get out of the chute really.
She feels she is the injured one in our R, but my wounds have had to be stifled, bc she is so myopic she hasn't wanted to hear my side for a very long time.....which led to some of our present problems.
So, we are standing on the edge of a precipice. I need more wisdom than I have to change the dynamics. Perhaps time to re-read DR.....
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
