I commented on your Retrouvaille experience in your own thread. Based on your experience and observations, I think that could definitely be a marriage saver for me as well.
I like the quote. I guess that is the story behind taking action myself. I can stop the D process anytime, if I want to. If she files, I cannot do that. It will be out of my control.
On another note (and shame on me, because I completely forgot to mention it before - I guess I have been too busy with GAL), I took off my wedding ring last Thursday. I read Beth's story about her experience, so I thought let me try it. After almost a week, I still fell OK about it (except in meetings when I try to play with it and it is not there). I am not sure if she noticed it Sunday night (she did not say anything), but honestly - I do not care. It is her problem if she puts any thought into this. I definitely did not think of her when I took it off. For me, it was a step towards freeing myself from this M.
AN
M43 W45, M17 S9 D6 Bomb: 11/11/08 EA: 10/26-12/31/08 ? Retrouvaille: 2/13-2/15/09 Healed, but still heading for D My situation
