Kel, you might not be so upset with him, but I am. I agree with everything that you said above. MT, he is walking all over you and you are letting him do it. This is not helping anything. It is pretty clear that right now he has no respect for himself, and little more for you. You are going to have to be strong enough for the both of you. Get your locks changed. He needs to make an appointment with you to be in the house. Yes, it is still maritial property, but he made the decision to leave.
Think about it this way...why would he consider changing anything right now when he has the best of both worlds? As long as he is so sure of you he will never do anything that is remotely uncomfortable for him. You are going to have to be strong enough for the both of you.
Also, he will never worry about losing you if he knows he can breeze into your life whenever he has the need.
I'm sorry MT. This whole thing just sucks, and will probably be more painful before it gets better. I truly believe though, that it will get better.
Love you.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
